We added a page to my site today, but I thought it was also worth re-submitting it to Blogger as well:
I have some friends or relatives who have gone through nasty divorces and, when I talk to them about a collaborative divorce, they think it is the most ridiculous thing they have ever seen.
But even years after they litigated their divorce, they are constantly going back to court for non-support, or for change with their children’s custody schedule, or contempt, because someone’s not following the order. And it really is just an ongoing negative cycle of litigation, not to mention how much money they are spending in litigating, not only their initial divorce custody order and any support for themselves or their children, but they are litigating post-divorce:
They continually go back to court.
They continually spend money on attorneys.
And in Collaborative, while it does not sound like you could divorce somebody that you hate to the absolute core of your being, that you could sit down with them and discuss:
How to split up your assets.
What is the best way to move forward with your children (and parenting.)
How cash flow is going to work.
It just seems absolutely out of the realm of possibility…but I can tell you that people have done it successfully, and not just in far away places…in New Jersey, in Pennsylvania.
…they've done it!...and studies have shown that the amount of litigation post-divorce is almost nil. People who divorce collaboratively:
They don’t continually to go back to court.
They don’t continue to fight with each other.
They don’t continue to upset their children to the point that, when those children become adults, the only thing they remember of their parents is the constant fighting…
I KNOW IT SOUNDS CRAZY, but it works and it is the best thing you can do for your family. bit.ly/cXgaPb
